But somehow it fits.
We took in another child a couple weeks ago. Victor, he is 10yrs old. It was something that came out of no where. We had been matched with a 3yr old boy before Christmas & were waiting to learn more about him & were asked what our interest in future placements would be. We said, a girl roughly 10-11 or even a small sib group with an older girl. The phone call we got later that week was regarding Victor. The current foster home he was in could no longer keep him for complicated reasons. So we had about an hour to decide if we would take him.
As I stood there in my office with Trav telling me all about this boy, good kid, good student, mom has issues, dad has fallen off the face of the earth, I prayed. I asked God if this was the best fit for us both & to protect this young man as he moved homes once again. So we agreed, my co-workers cheered and laughed because we are a tiny bit crazy.
As soon as we got home & we moved Ethan's crib into Kayden's room & the love seat that was once in Kaydens room into what had been an office, guest room & then baby room. Amazing how a room is just a box & can be transformed so easily. Now it was to be a 10 yr olds room. We made it as comfy as we could on short notice. The next evening Trav went to CYFD and picked him up. I felt nervous, we hadn't even so much as seen a picture of him let alone knew anything about him but he was about to be in our home. I thought how strange this all is, this young man could become our son and how odd it felt to wait for his arrival. So we tried to make it a fun night. I ordered pizza from a local place, Mario's because they can do gluten free and no cheese for my special eater Kayden. But apparently in my haste to rush out the door at work and get pizza, pick up the little ones and get home I ordered the biggest pizza possible. I mean this thing barely fit in the car. It was a good ice breaker for sure and a fun memory to look back on.
Once Trav got him home we unloaded his things from the car, tiny treasures and memories he had carried with him over the course of two years. We showed him his room and reassured him we would make it into his own space, get rid of the comforter and books and let him put up his things. He was happy to just have his own room, something he had never experienced before. It saddens me to think in his short 10yrs all things he has seen and been through and has been able to remain a pretty normal kid. He has had to be the parent and worries about things his brain can't even begin to understand. So our job is to let him be a kid, let him experience things and enjoy life.
So as time has gone by he started a new school and has done well adjusting. He started playing basketball, something he had never done before. And we opened up a wall in his room to expose a closet that was covered up by the previous owner, luckily it still had the shelf and bar and cedar lining. This thing is huge! And with time Victor has opened up to us. We are lucky he is such a good kid, definitely still some work to be done to help him process everything but over all no issues. He is great with the pets and the little kids. He and Chloe have hit it off and joke and talk and she already refers to him as her brother and he helps her feed the animals.
Seeing our home fill up is amazing. We may not have birthed all these kiddos but they are ours non the less. God has blessed us immensely and we will continue to pray for his guidance and will in all these situations.
Once Trav got him home we unloaded his things from the car, tiny treasures and memories he had carried with him over the course of two years. We showed him his room and reassured him we would make it into his own space, get rid of the comforter and books and let him put up his things. He was happy to just have his own room, something he had never experienced before. It saddens me to think in his short 10yrs all things he has seen and been through and has been able to remain a pretty normal kid. He has had to be the parent and worries about things his brain can't even begin to understand. So our job is to let him be a kid, let him experience things and enjoy life.
So as time has gone by he started a new school and has done well adjusting. He started playing basketball, something he had never done before. And we opened up a wall in his room to expose a closet that was covered up by the previous owner, luckily it still had the shelf and bar and cedar lining. This thing is huge! And with time Victor has opened up to us. We are lucky he is such a good kid, definitely still some work to be done to help him process everything but over all no issues. He is great with the pets and the little kids. He and Chloe have hit it off and joke and talk and she already refers to him as her brother and he helps her feed the animals. Seeing our home fill up is amazing. We may not have birthed all these kiddos but they are ours non the less. God has blessed us immensely and we will continue to pray for his guidance and will in all these situations.
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